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Thursday, January 29, 2009

Marriage Development Life Cycle (MDLC) - good one


Marriage Development Life Cycle (MDLC)

How to get a nice wife!!! / hubby– Guide for all the bachelors and advice for all the married people same for girls too covert the girls line to boys...


There are times in a person's life when he needs to take crucial decisions on his own. Marriage is one of them. Believe me, the decision on whom to marry is the most important decision a person will make in his life. After marriage, your wife is the most important person in your life. She can make or break your life. The mere thought of this is very frightening.

Some of the questions that crop up are -

a.. What sort of a girl do I marry?

b.. Will she adjust in my family?

c.. How can I decide on a girl by just meeting her for a few times?

d.. When should I get married?

e.. This is my life. So, I should choose the girl I marry, but then what if I make a mistake? .. so on and so forth.

I will try to address these & many more questions in the following sections.

The Nine Rules of Arranged Marriage

Rule 1-Magic No. 26,27,28

In an ideal scenario, a girl goes to college at the age of 18. By the time she graduates, goes for her post graduation and/ or works for 1-2 years, she will be about 23- 24. This means that she has spent about 5 years away from her home. In the 5 years period, she would meet many smart guys at college or during her first few years on job. So, in all probability it would be difficult to find a good girl older than 24 yrs. Secondly, in Indian families there is lot of pressure on the girl's to get married by the time they become 24-25.

Statistics says that there is a generation gap after every 5 years. So, in such scenario, one would prefer to marry a girl who is about 3-4 years younger to you. Thus, working backwards, an ideal age for a guy to get married is by 28. Earlier the marriage, the better it is.

Well, as we all know, in the current market scenario, there will never be stability in our career. So, I believe there is no such thing as, "I will marry when I settle down".

Rule 2-Subset of Marriage-able Girls

At times you hear statements like, "I am not getting the right match, I will look after 3 months, I will find a better match then". Well the truth is otherwise. The subset of unmarried girl looking for a match is fixed. >From this subset, there would be girls who would get married & there would be new girls added who would be looking for a match. The net result is that at any given time, the variety & numbers of marriage-able girls are fixed.

Rule 3-Competition for Girls

Like all other facets of life,there is lot of competition for good girls. So, if you are looking for a girl who is post graduate, has done her Engg, is working, very beautiful, smart, from a good family etc. etc, just think again. There are other guys who are also looking for similar girls & probably they are better off than you in terms of career, looks personality etc. Given a choice every guy would like to marry Aishwarya Rai. So, set your expectations accordingly.

Rule 4-Understanding Girls

You would have met a lot of people during your life. As we all know, it's difficult to judge a person based on a few meetings. I am sure you would agree with me that in case of girls it is even more difficult to understand them in a few meetings. I know people who are still trying to understand their wife. ;-).. Understanding your spouse is a life long assignment. So, then how do you select a girl based on a few meeting? This is where you need to take the help of your parents/friends & latest technologies like email/chat to choose your girl.

Rule 5-Society Expectation

The selection process is tough on every one who is involved in the process. In arranged marriage, involvement of family & society is pretty high. You can't meet a girl 3-4 times & then say no to her. It is bad for her future. So, you should have a good short-listing criterion. Meet only a few girls & be sure what you are looking for. It is for the benefit of everyone involved.

Rule 6-Marriage Between Equals

Unlike love marriage, in arranged marriage you also marry into the girl's family. In arranged marriages, family support plays a major role in ensuring a successful marriage. This is where the compatibility of social status, family values & caste/religion plays a major role. It's important to note that in case there is a perfect match between the two families, the marriage is destined to succeed.

Rule 7-Know Yourself

Unlike love marriage, in arranged marriage you first marry a person & then fall in love. So, it's very important that you do a self-assessment on the kind of person you would love. They say, "Opposite attract", while they also say, "Bird of same feather flock together". So, you take a call on what sort of person you like. Take a pen & paper; write down the kind of attributes you are looking for in a girl. Say, she should ideally have the looks of Sonia, the style of Monica, the voice of Sheena, the patience of Rashmi. You will certainly not find the perfect girl , but then you would have a good idea of what you are looking for. The secret here is to set some minimum criteria for selection. Don't forget rule no.3 here.

Rule 8-Girl's Beauty

A girl's looks attract, but then no one wants to end up marrying a dumb. It is like buying your bike. When you initially buy it, you are crazy about the looks, but later on you love it for its reliability, fuel economy & comfort level. Similarly, a girl's looks are important, but then it should not be the most important criteria. Later on in life, you will get bored of her looks. It is then that her personality & behavior will make all the difference to your marriage . I am sure your parents will be able to advice you a lot better on this topic .

Rule 9-Taking Advice

As I have mentioned in the next rule, it's very important that the final decision on whom to marry must necessarily be yours. However, don't do the mistake of isolating yourself from the world while planning your marriage. Discuss with your parents & very close friends on this issue. They are your well wishers . Secondly, in such important matters it's necessary that you analyze all possibilities. Remember, I am not suggesting that you follow others' advice, but don't forget to take their advice.

Rule 10-Own Decision

All said & done, it's your marriage & your life that is at stake. Once you are married, you & your wife are the only persons who will be facing the music. Don't marry a girl just because your parents or friends asked you to do so After marriage, if things don't work out & you end up saying, "It's because of my friends or my parents that I married you", then your marriage is destined for disaster. If the girl is of your choice, it is you who will be responsible for whatever happens. That's when the marriage works out perfectly. So, ensure that you marry the girl of your choice.

How to approach the selection process?

>From the day, a person decides to get married; the selection process takes a minimum of 3 months. The whole process needs a lot of patience & commitment. The ideal steps to be followed are:

A. Definition Phase

Define the minimum criteria for the kind of life partner you are looking for in terms of education, physical appearance, social status, family values, future career plans. Remember the Rule 3 here.

B. Lead Generation Phase

Place ads in various newspapers, magazines, websites, through friends, family friends, family societies & association etc. You need to exhaust all possible means of getting bio-datas at one go. Remember the Rule 2 here.

C. Short Listing Phase

Based on your selection criteria, short-list the interesting bio-datas. The general process followed for correspondence is as follows:

1. The initiator sends a one page profile of himself/herself.

2. Based on the profile, the receiver sends his/her one page profile along with request for detailed profile, photo, and horoscope.

3. The initiator then sends the requested information along with a request for similar information.

4. The receiver sends similar information.

5. If the bio-data is selected, it is passed over to the next phase.

D. Casual Interaction Phase

Based on short listing, about 7 to 10 bio-datas are taken forwarded to this phase. The next step to follow here is to exchange email/ chat ids. The guy & the girl then interact for 10 - 15 days to try & judge mutual compatibility through email/chat.

E. Family Interaction Phase

Based on the earlier phase, about 5 leads are taken for consideration in this phase. During this phase, the parents get involved & check the background information about the families to find mutual compatibility.

F. Dating Phase

Based on the earlier phase about 3 leads are taken forward to this phase. During this phase, the guy & the girl interact by going out alone for 2-3 times. The guy needs to prepare a set of simple questions like who is your favorite star, what are your hobbies? He needs to use his judgment to analyze the girl based on her responses.

G. The D-day Phase

Finally, the D-day comes when the guy has to select the girl he wants to spend his life with. If the process if followed systematically, there will be no ambiguity in deciding who should be your life partner.

Finally, my dear friends, marriage is all about compromises.In spite of all the planning that you do, there are a lot of uncertainties in a marriage. In fact this is the best part about marriage. Just remember that the person you marry must be of your choice. In such case, there would be no going back for both of you.

A few words of advice: To make your marriage a success; just believe in the age-old virtue , "Never do anything to others that you don't like for yourself?



Friday, January 23, 2009

Watch videos from Gmail chat

Gmail has added one more feature to chat box. Now you can watch Youtube and Google video previews right in Gmail chat.

What do you need to do get this feature?

From Gmail chat select a buddy to chat -> Options -> Add voice/video chat . And follow the required steps

After completing above steps you may need to restart your browser. Now you can see the option "Video & more" in your Gmail chat box. :)

Now if you get/send the youtube video link, you will get preview of it and the video will play right there. Enjoy!!!

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Tuesday, January 20, 2009

Send SMS right from Gmail chat

Gmail has rolled out yet another Lab feature that will let you send text SMS messages to peers on your Gmail chat list.

But right now this feature is available only in US. Hope Gmail will roll out this feature world wide soon.

In order to use it, you must first enable it through Gmail Labs, then you can initiate SMS-based instant message chats by typing in a phone number in the chat box on the left of Gmail page.

On the receiving end, when you get a text message from Gmail on your phone, it will come from a number in the 406 area code.

More Info at Gmail blog

Monday, January 19, 2009

Former watchman's son gets Cricket Team India call-up

Ravindra Jadeja, who was named in the Indian ODI team for the Sri Lanka tour is the son of a former watchman. And his rise to the top was almost cut short by the tragic death of his mother when he was just 17.

Jamnagar's glorious cricketing heritage boasts of legendary 'maharajas' Ranjitsinhji and Duleepsinhji, but is now set to be enriched by a man from a modest background.

Ironically, it was his mother Lataben's dream of seeing him play for India, and support of other family members, that kept Jadeja's hunger for success alive.

The left-handed spinner and hard-hitting batsman was easily the best all-rounder on view in the recently concluded Ranji Trophy.

Friday, January 16, 2009

Actress Tamanna Bhatia Biography

Name: Tamanna Bhatia
Birth Date: 21st of December, 1989
Actress: Tamil and Telugu cinema
Hits: Vyabari
Habits: Drinking Beer
Debut Movie: Hindi- Chand Sa Roshan Chehra, Tamil- Kedi


Tamanna was born to Santhosh Bhatia and Rajani Bhatia on 21st December 1989. She started acting at the age of 13, first year student at National College in Bandra, and she has one brother, Anand Bhatia. She can speak Tamil, Telugu, Hindi and English. Tamanna has done many advertisements in Tamil for big companies such as Shakti Masala, Saravana Stores, RMKV and she also did few music albums before she entered the film industry.and she has one brother, Anand Bhatia. She can speak Tamil, Telugu, Hindi and English.

Tamanna’s debut movie in Tamil Kedi did well at the box office. Telugu Happy Days movie and Tamil Kalloori movie which released in 2007 are noted films in her career.

Tamanna has been signed with actor Surya even before the release of her much talked about film Kaloori!. She has signed up to be Surya’s in a forthcoming movie directed by cinematographer turned director K.V Anand’s which is produced by prestigious AVM Productions.

Her recent movie “Kalloori” did well at the box-office. She was appreciated by the audience for her simplistic yet realistic potrayal of her role. Tamanna has done many advertisements in Tamil for big companies such as Shakti Masala, Saravana Stores, RMKV and she also did few music albums before she entered the film industry.

Her Role in her recent movie “Happy Days” in Telugu brought her huge success in Tollywood . Her performance in the role of Madhu in happy days brought her Critical Acclaim.

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Thursday, January 15, 2009

Producers Suffering over Milenge Milenge

Kareena Kapoor and Shahid Kapoor have long split and the producers of the film Milenge Milenge who wanted to cash in on the couple’s popularity post Fida and China Town days are really worried these days.

The couple had finished shooting for the film just after the break up. Due to some reasons the film’s post production processes took a long while. Now that everything is done, the couple is unavailable for the dubbing.

Apparently Shahid and Kareena have finished just a quarter of their dubbing job and there is still a lot to do. But both of them are so busy with their schedules that they are not able to spare sometime off to finish the dubbing.

The producers are worried that the film might not do well because film has both Bebo and Shahid in their older avatars of Fida days. Shahid now looks more matured and Kareena has lost oodles of weight. The audience might not like watching them in their old look.

Will the film flop or will people look forward to it. What do you think about this!

Tuesday, January 13, 2009

Thursday, January 8, 2009

Mitsubishi to cut 2,000 jobs

Mitsubishi Motors Corp. will slash more than 2,000 temporary jobs in Japan by the end of March as the country's fourth largest automaker struggles in the face of a severe slump in sales worldwide, media reports said Thursday.

The job cuts, the latest in a slew of setbacks for Japanese carmakers, underlined a rapid deterioration in the global auto market as major developed economies grapple with recession and emerging economies slow.

Mitsubishi announced last year it would cut 1,100 temporary jobs by the end of March 2009. But faced with a plunge in global demand, the Japanese automaker will slash another 900 temporary jobs, bringing the total number of job losses to over 2,000, the Sankei newspaper said Thursday, citing no sources.

Japan's public broadcaster NHK also said Mitsubishi will trim an additional 900 jobs by the end of March at the company's auto plant in Okayama, western Japan.

A Mitsubishi spokesman declined to confirm the reports. Separately, the Nikkei business daily said Thursday that Mitsubishi will supply its electric passenger car, i MiEV, for French automaker PSA Peugeot Citroen as early as next year.

Mitsubishi's i MiEV will go on sale in Japan this year. Mitsubishi said Thursday it aims to set the vehicle's price under three million yen ($32,000).

The Japanese automaker said it is considering business cooperation with Peugeot in the area of electric cars, but stressed nothing has been decided at this moment.

Apart from Mitsubishi, Japan's No. 1 automaker, Toyota Motor Corp., plans to produce a next-generation electric vehicle by early in the next decade. Nissan Motor Co. has also promised to sell an electric vehicle in Japan and the United States in 2010 and globally by 2012.

Source: Timesofindia

Turn NOTEPAD into a diary!

Cool Tip of using Notepad!! Using this we can go Green. Without use of paper

Turn NOTEPAD into a diary! Diary

Here is a real cool tip for people who use notepad to write down any info on a day to day basis...

It simply serves as a virtual diary!

* Open a notepad and type .LOG (case sensitive) as the first line.

* Save and close the file.

* Double-click the file to open it and notice that Notepad appends the current date

And time and places the cursor on the next line.

* Type your notes and then save and close the file.

Each time you open the file, Notepad repeats the process,

Appending the time and date and placing the cursor below it.

Apple to launch MacBook Wheel - with No keyboard

Apple unveiled a new laptop with no keyboard yesterday. Can you think of a laptop without a keyboard? Well, that is hard to imagine for sure. Having said that, Apple has gone ahead with its innovative range of products to introduce the ‘MacBook Wheel’. Take a look at this video to know more about this product.

This is an innovative new laptop with a touch-sensitive click wheel instead of a traditional keyboard. So, Apple’s latest laptop has killed the keyboard that we use to key in data. Yup, no keyboard!

This MacBook Click wheel is a sleek touch sensitive IO device, very much like the one found on iPods, and thus the MacBook Wheel will make typing a thing of the past. Looking at this video, I can’t predict how much difficult it would be to use this gadget! You need to wait for at least 3 months to buy this MacBook and be prepared to shell out a minimum of US $2600 to get rid of your keyboard.

Friday, January 2, 2009

Ghajini Makes 90 crores in 5 Days

Aamir Khan’s Ghajini is proving to be the biggest hit of all times. The film released on Christmas day and in 5 days it has made a whooping 90 crores.

“A Christmas release, Ghajini has collected revenues totalling $4 million (nearly Rs.200 million) till Sunday, taking its total worldwide collections to nearly Rs.90 crores in just five days since its release,” reports a source.

“According to BIG Pictures, Reliance BIG Entertainment Ltd (RBEL), which released “Ghajini” in 22 countries, opened with $0.92 million in the Middle East, followed by North America with $1.4 million and Australia with $254,000,” adds the source.

2008: Black year for job market

Year 2008 has been added to the history books. Employees can't forget the year 2008 for lot of reasons. It was a year which has ducked thousands of employees job. And employees who had job, they had to spend their days fearing about loosing of job.

If you look back to 2008 you will find two scenarios. First three months of the year 2008, lot of people got job and people who had job were searching for lucrative job. Last three months of 2008 was disaster for the employees by loosing their jobs. Series of pink slips has been given to employees by employers. People who were searching for job cursed economy. All over the world - banking, finance, insurance, automobiles, airways companies had to stop their extension plans and it may take at least 1-2 years to get back to normal rhythm.

Past and Future
After September 2008, more than 10 Lakh people lost their jobs. Companies had to stop promotions, foreign trips, travel expenditure and lot has been axed by companies to survive in this recession. I am feeling that people who are in government job are in "safe heaven". Because there is no job cuts in government sector. If you look at the future everything is not yet over, according to the survey in coming days there will be more job cuts in IT/BPO, manufacturing companies.

I Hope future years will bring cheer to our life.

Thursday, January 1, 2009

Happy New Year 2009..

To all readers -

Happy, Prosperous and a Fun-filled new year - 2009.

"Another turning point, a fork stuck in the road.

Time grabs you by the wrist, directs you where to go.

So make the best of this test, and don't ask why.

It's not a question, but a lesson learned in time.

It's something unpredictable, but in the end it's right.

We hope you have the time of your life."

So in the coming year, may all the dreams in your eyes,

all the desires in your heart,

and all the hopes in your life blend together,

to give you the most spectacular New Year ever.

Have a Joyous New Year!!!